Category Archives:Life Experiences

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Dec. 10.

Former Social Work Student Who Refused To Counsel Gay Patient To Receive $75,000 From Eastern Michigan University

 

 

I know your probably thinking why is a student who refused counseling based on sexual orientation getting paid for not doing her job? Julea Ward, a student of Eastern Michigan University was expelled from a counseling program because she denied counseling to gays and lesbians about their lifestyles. Ward refused to counsel gays and lesbians because of her religious beliefs and in doign so she was dismissed from the master’s degree counseling program. Because of her rebuff a lawsuit was filed by the Alliance Defense Fund in April 2009 on behalf of Julea Ward. Ward, who was in training to become a K-12 counselor said she referred the student to another counselor. However, the Universities policy prohibits discrimination and requires counseling students to use the code of ethics of the American Counseling Association. The Alliance Defense Fund asked the court to order Eastern Michigan University to change its counseling curriculum to allow counseling students to refer clients elsewhere on issues related to same sex relationships, abortion, and per-marital sex.  Eastern Michigan had the decision to not waste anymore money and just pay the student with the money coming from the schools insurance company, Ward was rewarded $75,000 in the U.S. 6th Circuit Court of Appeals. I almost want to say that Ms. Ward is in the wrong profession, especially with being a K-12 counselor. Most teens in high school are exploring their sexuality and are trying to find themselves, how is it fair not to counsel a student because they are doing something you don’t believe in? A counselor is there to be open minded and to help those who are seeking advice.  School is already a harsh and uncertain environment as it is, counselors are there to help with decisions beyond secondary education and to help prepare students;  how can you do that if you’re dismissing them or passing them to someone else? There are teens who are being bullied for their sexual orientation and even worse committing suicide because they live in fear and/or have mental health issues, like depressions or anxiety.   I understand that we should not compromise our beliefs for the sake of employment, however counselors should be unbiased and encouraging regardless of whatever lifestyle a person may lead. (291)

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Dec. 03.

Tragic News: Kansas City Chief’s Player Jovan Belcher Kills Girlfriend Then Commits Suicide After An Alleged Argument

 

NFL Kansas City Chief LB Jovan Belcher allegedly shot girlfriend Kasandra Perkins, after staying out late following a Trey Songz concert. Following her murder, Belcher drove to Arrowhead Stadium where he stood in the parking lot and thanked general manager Scott Pioli, head coach Romeo Crennel and linebackers coach Gary Gibbs, for what they had done for him, news reports said. Then he pulled the trigger.

According to the NY Post:

The victim, Kasandra Perkins, 22, and Jovan Belcher had a baby girl, Zoey, on Sept. 11. Her relatives declined comment to The Post. The tragic violence was allegedly set off after Belcher’s girlfriend was out late Friday attending a concert by R&B singer Trey Songz, according to the Wichita Eagle.

A friend of Kasandra Perkins, 22, told the paper that the couple argued when she returned from the show at The Midland. Belcher allegedly confronted Perkins when she returned home about 1 a.m. The couple, who met after being introduced by another Chiefs player, had dated about three years. They argued frequently, according to the source, who was not aware of any prior physical abuse, the paper reported.

TMZ also reports:

Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher and girlfriend Kasandra Perkins were an extremely happy couple … this according to Kasandra’s family, who says news of the alleged murder/suicide this morning came as an “utter shock.”

Members of Kasandra’s family tell TMZ … Jovan and Kasandra always seemed to be in love. In fact, we’re told when Kasandra got pregnant, she and Jovan were “ecstatic.” The family says ever since the baby was born in September, the two couldn’t have seemed happier together.

The 22-year-old’s family says they have NO IDEA why the relationship took a tragic turn this morning — when Jovan allegedly shot and killed Kasandra before taking his own life — and news of their deaths was both devastating and unexpected.

Jovan started playing with the Chiefs in 2009 — and Kasandra, who is originally from Texas moved to Missouri to be with him.

 

And coincidentally, the Daily Mail UK also reported a member of the Cleveland Browns grounds crew killed himself at their practice facility – the same day Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher committed suicide at Arrowhead Stadium. Eric Eucker’s body was found Saturday morning at the facility in suburban Cleveland. Browns spokesman Neal Gulkis released a statement calling the man a good friend and an outstanding employee and saying the team’s heartfelt condolences go out to his family.

Are regular mental evaluations needed for athletes nowadays? It seems that suicide, murder-suicide deaths and violence in athletes are becoming all to common….

And does the African American community tend to ignore seeking professional help when needed? What do you think of this?

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Aug. 29.

Say What? Married Pastor Arrested For Spreading HIV To His Flock

 

 

The black church seems to have been under much scrutiny this past year with the Bishop Eddie Long scandal and also Creflo Dollar being criticized for chastising his daughter. Now we have another public embarrassment, Pastor Craig Lamar Davis (who is married by the way) who was once a preacher at the Full Gospel Baptist Church in Atlanta, has been arrested for reckless conduct for sleeping with several women while being HIV positive. Continue reading “Say What? Married Pastor Arrested For Spreading HIV To His Flock” » (604)

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Jul. 11.

Should Women Pump Their Own Gas?? KimYe Thinks So!

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When pondering on the extinction of chivalry, women and men alike often visualize a man refusing to pick up a check, help a lady over a puddle, pull out a chair, or even open a car door.  All these tasks are pretty standard under the umbrella of chivalry, but now ask yourself this: “Would a man open a car door for a lady if he knew she was going to pump the gas?” Or is pumping gas just another arduous task that should be filed under the label of gentlemanly behavior?? Let’s check with the A-listers on this one.

Yesterday, Armenian beauty and celeb socialite, Kim Kardashian and her boyfriend, hip hop superstar, Kanye West were spotted in Yeezy’s limited edition Lamborghini Aventador LP 700-4 pulling into a gas station near the Westfield Topanga Plaza in Canoga Park, CA,  but when the Lambo doors glided up, it was not Mr. College Dropout that popped out and headed to the pump.  It was little Miss Kim who emerged from the passenger side, sporting a killer pair of mid-calf boot stillettos and skin tight jeans.  That’s right!! Kanye sat in the car and allowed his woman to do the dirty work!!!  Why?? One scenario could be that the publicity-crazed Kim K. was looking to get some beauty shots in front of a crowd of paparrazi? On the other hand though, word on the celeb grapevine (according to Ray-J) is that Kim enjoys spoiling her man.  However, could the former QuickTrim queen have gone a little too far with the boyfriend-doting here?  Furthermore, what’s up with Kanye?? Kim isn’t a round the way chick. Doesn’t she deserve the royal treatment as well?  What if she smudged her lip gloss putting back on the gas cap?

It’s cool that men and women are now able to share responsibilities that traditionally were assigned to a specified gender, but should there be certain more difficult and filth prone jobs that should stay assigned to men when they are present like pumping gas, killing spiders, and mowing the lawn? Or is it cool to share the work equally? Maybe? Maybe not? What’s your opinion? (873)

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Jun. 20.

Dwyane’s Wade’s Ex-Wife Arrested After Attempted Abduction of Their Children

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Ok, so while the baby mama of Miami Heat player, Chris Bosh is attempting to take her ex to court to get more child support for their 3-year-old daughter, Siovaughn Funches-Wade, ex-wife and baby mother of Bosh’s teammate, Dwyane Wade is taking matters into her own hands…LITERALLY!!!  This past Father’s Day weekend, Funches-Wade was arrested and charged with two counts of attempted child abduction, two counts of unlawful visitation interference and one count of resisting arrest after failing to turn over Wade’s two boys to his sister so that the children could make an early flight to Miami in order to spend Father’s Day with their dad.

Wade’s attorney, James Pritikin, filed an emergency motion with a Chicago judge yesterday (June 19) to suspend  Wade’s ex-wife’s right to visitation with their two children.  Wade has had full custody of both boys since March 2011 despite Funches-Wade’s appeals.  A hearing to determine Funches-Wade’s visitation rights was set for June 26, 2012 which could possibly be the date of Game 7 in the Finals.

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Jun. 19.

VAGINA, VOICE, VOTE! Vagina Monologues Take Over Michigan State Capital After Female Lawmakers Silenced

We all know Eve Ensler to be that androgenous image and powerfully femininst voice behind the popular play, The Vagina Monologues which over the past 15 years, has rapidly gained international attention and acclaim for being a vehement symbol against female gender discrimination and mistreatment.  Well, once again, Ms. Ensler has taken her vajayjay stories on the road and landed smack dab in the heart of Michigan, our state capital, Lansing.

Ensler’s visit was sparked by the barring of two Michigan female legislators from speaking on the state House floor after they made some controversial comments regarding the sanctioning of abortion providers.  On Thursday, State Reps. Lisa Brown, D-West Bloomfield, and Barb Byrum, D-Onondaga, were told that they wouldn’t be recognized to publicly speak on any matters before the House because of comments they made Wednesday during an emotional debate on a bill that puts new restrictions on abortion providers.  The bill Byrum and Brown were arguing against provides for sweeping new regulations and insurance requirements for abortion providers, making it a crime to coerce a woman into having an abortion and also regulating the disposal of fetal remains.  This bill was actually passed on a 70-39 vote, but won’t be taken up to state Senate until September at the earliest.

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Jun. 18.

Celebrating a Civil Rights’ Symbol: The Death of Rodney King

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Rodney Glen King was only one month shy of his 26th birthday that fateful night in March of 1991 when he led members of the Los Angeles Police Department on a high speed chase that ended in one darkened corner of an L.A. neighborhood.  King –who was the driver—- and two of his friends were leaving a friend’s house where they had been drinking and watching basketball, when King’s car was spotted speeding down Interstate 210 in the San Fernando Valley area of Los Angeles.  Afraid that if he was pulled over and found to be drunk, he would be taken to jail for a parole violation stemming from a previous robbery conviction, King refused to relent to the officers and quickly exited the freeway.  LAPD officers then pursued King for approximately eight miles at speeds of between 50-115 miles per hour before finally cornering him. In addition to the pair of California Highway Patrol Officers that had initially spotted King, there were five officers present when he was apprehended: Stacey Koon, Laurence Powell, Timothy Wind, Theodore Briseno and Rolando Solano.

LAPD officers asked King and his passengers to exit the vehicle.  His passengers  obeyed, but King was reluctant to leave and when he did find his way out of the vehicle, his movements were silly and staggering, even leading certain officers to believe he had a gun.  One of the officers instructed the remaining four to subdue and handcuff King in a manner called a “swarm”, a technique that involves multiple officers grabbing a suspect with empty hands.  As the officers moved to do so, King physically resisted throwing two of the officers off of him and striking one of them in the chest.  King was then tasered, causing him to fall to his knees.

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Jun. 15.

“Moesha” Star, Yvette Wilson Dead at 48

#FreeRetroChics has some saddening news to report this morning.  According to USA Today, actress and comedian, Yvette Wilson, passed yesterday (June 14), putting an end to a very difficult battle with cervical cancer and kidney failure.  Wilson was best known for her role as the motherly and wise, Andell Wilkerson in “Moesha” and its’ spinoff, “The Parkers”, but she has also appeared in the sitcom, Thea as well as the movies, Friday, Poetic Justice, House Party 2, House Party 3, Russell Simmons Def Comedy Jam,  and the film parody, Don’t Be A Menace to South Central While Drinking Your Juice in the Hood. 

Last month, after Wilson’s cancer had come back very agressively, she appealed to her fans hoping to get some financial help in order to help pay the medical bills accrued from her bout with Stage 4 cervical cancer. Wilson was not only suffering from cervical cancer but was also in need of a kidney transplant.  To undergo proper treatment, she needed to raise $25,000 by the 1st of June so a friend, Jeffrey Pittle, started a website for people to donate money to help with her medical bills and  transportation costs.  The website raised 56 percent of the money needed before she passed yesterday at the age of 48.

Close friend and Moesha castmate, Shar Jackson tweeted last night:

“Everyone plz send prayer and light to my sister and best friend Yvette Wilson…..”

“F**k Cancer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

“Oh god….. My heart is soooo unbelievably broken ….”

“I wanna thank all my tweeties for their prayers but god has chosen to take my sister Yvette home..…”

Twitter and Facebook have erupted with condolences and well wishes to Wilson’s family, including a tweet from Moesha guest star, Gabrielle Union:

#RIPYVETTEWILSON Great actress from “Moesha” & “The Parkers” She was truly beautiful inside & out. You will be missed. Love & Light”

#FreeRetroChics is also praying for the Wilson family during their time of bereavement and send our deepest condolences.  R.I.P. Ms. Yvette Wilson….

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Jun. 05.

Pastor Corey Brooks: Leader That Walks With A Cause

 

Pastor Corey Brooks from New Beginnings church in Chicago is more than willing to stand for what he believes will improve his community.

Currently, Pastor Brooks made an announcement starting June 5th, 2012 to walk cross country to raise $15 million for construction for a community center located in Woodlawn, Chicago. NBC News stated “Brooks will start this walk in Times Square, New York to Newark, New Jersey and walk through Philadelphia. He plans to end the walk in four months at the Staple Center in Los Angeles, California”. Brooks will be accompanied by his two sons Cobe, and Desmond Marshall. Marshall told Chicago Tribune he is excited and nervous but it will bring attention to this major epidemic.

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Jun. 04.

“Told You So” Moment: Queen Latifah Says She Did Not Come Out At Long Beach Pride Festival

I love this picture of Queen Latifah….LOL!  It’s like she’s laughing at her haters! HA!! Now, I am by no means calling any members of our #FreeRetroChics audience haters, but I am wishing that I could issue individualized little “I told you so” notes to all those gossip blogs and rumor mags that incorrectly and inadvertently stamped the Queen as gay as soon as she signed on to do the Long Beach Pride Festival last month.  According to the Advocate, a U.S. based national gay and lesbian news magazine, while on stage on May 19, Latifah did reportedly refer to the crowd as “her people” and also asked “Are you feeling all the unity?” causing some to believe that she had indeed come out of the closet. NOPE! NOPE! NOPE! In a recent interview with Entertainment Weekly when asked if she had indeed come out at the Pride Festival, Latifah commented:

“That definitely wasn’t the case. I’ve never dealt with the question of my personal life in public. It’s just not gonna happen.”

The Queen also told EW:

“To me, doing a gay pride show is one of the most fun things. My first show that paid more than $10,000 was in a gay club on New Year’s Eve in San Francisco…When people are going through hatred and bullying, the biggest thing to fight that is love… So that’s all I encouraged my audience to do that night: to share their light and share their love. Period.”

Needless to say right after this interview was released, sites such as  www.crushable.com posted stories with headlines like “Queen Latifah Goes Back Into the Closet!”  LOL! Really?? How about she never came out??  Regardless of the Queen’s sexual orientation, I’m glad she took the time to clear this little situation up.  Don’t get me wrong…she definitely didn’t have to, but it’s nice that we got to hear from both sides.

Check out http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/04/queen-latifah-did-not-come-out-pride_n_1529566.html for an overview of the Queen’s clarification on her performance at the Pride event and also an interesting slideshow of stars who have also been accused of being gay in the public eye.

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