Some of us are at that age where we are wondering where did time go? and are we going to be find the person we were meant to be with? Some of us also had plans that didn’t quite work out, which is why I pose the question at what age did you think you would be married by?
As I am approaching my 30′s and I see some of my friends and family preparing to get married I am reminded of how when I was younger I thought and/or wanted to be married by the age of 25. I’m sure we all remember playing a game when we were younger that consisted of who we would marry, what type of profession we would be working in, and what type of dress we would wear. I would make a list of 3 or 4 guys I liked, the dress style I wanted, whether it was halter, strapless, or spaghetti strapped, and what type of jobs I wanted. Then I think you had to chose a number and count and where ever you landed in each category was who you were going to marry, the job you would have, and what type of dress you would wear. If only life was that simple, but looking back now it seems ridiculous to think you could plan your future by playing a silly game, but when your young you believe anything and it was all in fun. When I heard John Legend’s “This Time”, I instantly fell in love with the song and wanted my life to be like the words he sang, where he realized he made a mistake in letting her go and this time he wanted it all and would give all his heart to get her back; that song spoke to me in a way that no song ever did, which is why it’s one of my favorite love songs. That song was playing during the wedding episode of The Game (which I can sit and watch countless times), when Derwin recited his vows to Melanie and he said he knew he found the one when he listened to those vows and he knew with no hesitation and no reservation that she was the one for him, I swear I sat with tears in my eyes wanting that to be me. I realize that our lives can’t be lived like a love song or our favorite TV Show because in reality our lives and/or relationships can’t be decided in 4-5 minutes or 30 minutes-1 hour. I am starting to realize that as much as I do want to settle with someone I need to learn to be happy and do the things that make he happy, I want to travel, have fun with my friends, finish school, and just enjoy life before I commit the rest of my life to an0ther person, which may seem selfish, but I don’t want to live regretting that fact that I didn’t do the things I wanted to do. I know that I am still young and in due time my day will come. Patience is truly a virtue and I am learning to be content with what I have until the Lord sees fit for me to get married. What do you think Ladies? Did you think you would be married already? (238)